Wednesday, 28 May 2014

Mummys


Fresh flower are soooooo expensive! I’ve never actually bought any before, and I didn’t bother to find out much about them till now. It’s Mother’s day, if you may wonder what the occasion might be. Mummy was never the sort that loves flowers, but then who doesn’t? So I decided to get her some this time round. Eventually I got her a potted plant, since they last longer, and it would be nice to have something to have for a while rather than something that just dies in a couple of weeks. I was really looking forward to Mother’s day, what with the presentation the youths are going to present on that day in church.

Alas, something unforeseen happened. Mummy got terribly sick, ad it was so bad she couldn’t leave the bed for long periods. It was one of the longest week I had, having to just get by with my brother, and the house was so quiet with mummy resting all the while. It was weird, having to do everything that used to just be ready for both of us children. And it served as a good reminder of the things mummy always do for us, without complain.

Mummy got better soon enough, after a week. But there was one thing I learned this few weeks, yea weeks… in addition with the church’s sermon series about family. It isn’t as easy as it seems to be written in books, bringing up kids. Apart from supplying their physical needs, there’s also the spiritual wellbeing and all… And as much as you try to be World’s Best Super-parent, things can still go wrong. The kid somehow refuses any advice, ignores your pleas and warnings, and just goes to the total opposite direction of where you’re trying to guide them. This sounds like a very risky investment, not knowing whether the returns will be good or not, worse still, will there even be any at all?

Yet, we as children take our parents for granted most of the time, and feel entitled to many things, though we are perfectly helpless on our own. We always say that they don’t understand us, are so controlling, so old fashioned, so this and so that… but we fail to look at ourselves. Have we been the best of children as we should be? I must say, we are so much better off than they were during our age. We’re provided with so many things, most of us don’t need to even get a part time job to support our studies or wants, food is always on the table, clothes are always washed and that’s just a small fraction of what our parents has given us – UNCONDITIONALLY. All in hopes that we grow up well provided for, and to walk in the ways of our heavenly Father, to be a good, successful person on this earth.

Another thing we need to consider is also the fact that our parents were brought up in a different way and environment. Our grandparents weren’t so expressive when it comes to love, mostly in words of affirmation and such, though much in actions. Our parents didn’t really have any role model parents to look up to, since their parents are always so busy and they had a whole bunch of siblings to compete with for attention. They do try to be the best parent to their best ability, dying to themselves daily for the love of their family. Really, I can’t imagine being a parent one day. Will I be able to bring up my children with the same patience my mum has, not to mention probably being a better mother than she was (mummy always said that we need to improve ourselves, even in parenting, and she expects me to be a super-super-mother)?

It’s sort of terrifying to imagine bringing up children. Not that I don’t like them. But really, if you just stop to think what your parents have been doing for you, you’d be left speechless. But one thing is for sure. Mummy always had God with her. And once you have Him with you, nothing is impossible with him! Mummy has always walked with God and reminded us to walk close to Him, bringing God with us wherever we go. She constantly reminds us of his faithfulness and goodness, and all that He is. She prays for us at all times. I know I can always rely on mummy to intercede for me when in need, because she is near to Father and He listens to her prayers.

Mummy you truly are a gift from God. And I hope to be a mother as good as you are. Any more than that would truly be the hands of God upon me.